Why I’m Starting to Put the Future on Hold
As a person who’s always trying to plan, I constantly find myself thinking about the future. Whether it’s tomorrow, the weekend, or something in a month. I’m always focusing on the future.
In some cases, this is a great way to be. I’m using my skills to plan ahead, stay organized and avoid mistakes. But, in everyday life, I’m coming to realize that this line of thinking isn’t always the best.
Because I’m losing sight of the moment. I’m not focused on the present and to me, that’s something I want to work on.
Since we only get this one life, there’s not point in wishing days away just to get to something we’re looking forward to. If this is the case, then we’ll constantly be yearning for a new day, a new week, a new month, a new year.
“The living moment is everything.”
This whole, living in the moment thing is new to me. I’m a Type A- Italian who likes everything a certain way. I’m not a huge fan of surprises. I love schedules and being on time. I hate not knowing what’s going to happen. I plan and plan and then plan some more.
But in these moments where I’m trying to map out my life thinking that I have it all together, I’m losing sight of the present, the living moment. Now, looking back, I wonder how many things I missed out on because I was planning ahead for the future?
It’s a scary thought don’t you think?
Which leads into a larger “problem” for lack of a better term. I think that the idea of being content has fallen to the wayside.
In this day and age, I think that we’re starting to become programmed to always want the next best thing and we’re conditioned to believe that the grass is always greener on the other side.
Social media is a catalyst.
I’m a huge fan/believer in social media. Though some believe that it disconnects people from human interaction, I think that it in fact, connects people. It sparks conversation, it spurs on creativity, it helps give those a voice who might not be heard otherwise.
But, just as with anything in life, where there’s good, there’s also bad.
The bad in social media is that it can paint a misleading picture that makes people believe that their lives are inadequate.
Let’s look at Instagram. It’s an amazing platform — my favorite because it’s visual, it’s attention grabbing. However, I’ve found myself wanting what other people have. More times than not, it’s material things. I’m left with the “I wish I had those shoes…” or “I wish I could go on that vacation…”
Sometimes social media can make people want things and feel like they need things in order to be accepted and to be part of an elite group of human.
Though Instagram is a platform that allows people to capture their life in a square-cropped image, sometimes that life that they’ve captured isn’t reality.
It’s an illusion and I think society as a whole has to realize that we can’t live comparing ourselves to others. If we do, we’ll never be happy, we’ll never be content and we’ll be in a constant state of wishing and wanting for better things in the future rather than relishing in the present moment.
So, as I start on this new journey of taking each day at a time, moment by moment, and keeping my thoughts on the future in check, I hope that I can find a new sense of contentment that I’ve been searching for.
I’ll leave you with this.