I do see your point and I think you are right for the most part, but… and maybe I’m being a little too naive here … I feel like the only way to get to those people who don’t understand (the importance of) consent is by making it analogies that are so ridiculously obvious that you can not fight it… I mean, come on, who would force tea down the troath of a drunk/passed out / asleep person. It is just ridiculous, no one can argue that.
I know, the consequences of rape are totally unaccounted for in the analogies. And that is not ok in a conversation amongst people that understand the matter as well as tottaly insensitive. But I don’t expect people who can’t understand consent or what rape is to go that far into the conversation.
At least, both the tea and the 5 dollar analogies are saying that the “abuser” should not abuse and not what the “victim” should do to avoid being abused, which is an argument we see a lot.
For me, it’s the same as the “imagine if it was your daughter/sister” argument. It’s stupid, because all human beings matter even if they are not related to you, but, unfortunately it’s necessary to make people who are totally blind to the matter, think about it.
That said, yes, please, if you do find a better analogy, that can both be understood by most people and take into account all of your points (and others made in the comments), share it with all of us. In the mean time I’ll continue sharing this not so appropriate ones.