That is why they are called cafeteria catholics. They are like the seeds that was thrown on the rocky and un fertile soil that never blooms any fruit. They heard the word of the lord but seeing its too hard to follow. they dismiss it and create some spin into it, make their own interpretation based on feelings and whats works for them. If was never about obedience or careful study of the word its all about the person (selfish self) and not God. They were never religious in a sense they just want to belong.