11 Things Men I Love Do Every Day
I am constantly charmed, frightened, angered, entertained, mystified, delighted and amazed by men. But there there are certain things only men I adore and love do every day.
1. They live with purpose.
The men I love seek out meaning and purpose in their lives. They know what matters most to them and prioritise it above everything and everybody else. They are curious about their inner life, seek to understand who they are and what makes them tick. They put their own peace, happiness and sense of purpose first.
2. They are mentally strong.
The men I love are mentally and emotionally resilient. They are aware of their thoughts and feelings, are not afraid of them and do not hide their feelings from others. They know that emotions come and go and it’s okay to feel pain, fear and anger. They do not impulsively act on their strong emotions but regulate them and talk about how they feel with others.
3. They cherish change.
The men I love are open and welcoming to change. They accept uncertainty, see change as opportunity, and surround themselves with people who seek out positive change in their own lives.
4. They take reasoned risks.
The men I love know that there is always a degree of uncertainty to life, and that in order to get what they want, they must take risks. They trust and believe in themselves enough to know that they can deal with whatever difficulty life might throw at them, and that the benefit of having the life and love they want far outweighs the risks.
5. They take responsibility appropriately.
The men I love know what responsibility is and put it where it belongs. They do not take responsibility that is not theirs to take, and they do not put responsibility for their own actions on others.
6. They hate control.
The men I love have deep dislike of control. They do not control their emotions, but feel and talk about them. They do not let anybody else control them and take away their power. And they do not want to control and take away the power of others.
7. They hate entitlement.
The men I love do not believe that anybody else owes them anything — attention, respect, sex, money, love…They want to only receive from others what they have earned and what is voluntarily given to them.
8. They are not afraid to be vulnerable.
The men I love know that vulnerability is not weakness. Vulnerability, shared with the right people at the right time, is what connects us with others. They know that showing who they are, what they really think and feel to the people who care about them, not only shows strength and courage, but makes their relationships strong too.
9. They believe they have value.
The men I love know their worth. They have deep respect and love for who they are as a person, what they like and dislike, and how they want to live their life, and they don’t listen to anybody who tells them that they have little or no value. They feel great pride in who they are as a human being.
10. They believe other people have value.
The men I love have deep interest, liking and respect in other people, men and women, children and adults. They believe most people are good, intelligent and kind, and they don’t generalise their fears and dislikes to groups of people, races, nationalities and genders. They believe human beings are fundamentally similar, and all have value.
11. They love women.
The men I love like women beyond their sexuality. They like women as human beings. They feel their lives are infinitely better because women are in it. They seek out the company of women, enjoy being with them, and are genuinely interested in getting to know the women around them and forming friendships with them, whether or not they are attracted to each other sexually.