Holy cow, Alto — I’m so sorry you went through this in the wake of losing David. I think I’ve been a magnet for narcissists over the course of my life — thankfully not as a romantic partner (yet — I fear I’m vulnerable however — how does one protect themselves? I’m afraid I’m still green in this regard). But I’ve severed toxic friendships for this reason and suspect a family member or two falls into this category. So glad you saw through it and got out.