I can relate to much of what you wrote.
I agree, communication is so important in relationships — I have learned this the hard way. Keep trying to talk. Keep letting him know that you need him to listen to you and that you need to know what he’s thinking too. You need all the information you can get to make a decision about going forward. These things are so hard.
You made me think of one of my favourite quotes:
A crossroad. What a pain in the ass spot to end up in. — Tite Kubo
So damn true.