She liked to keep me under her thumb. When I finally had the nerve to step out on my own, she fought me on everything I did. She didn’t want me to grow. It took me a very long time to see that I wasn’t really important to her. She was a terrible influence at a critical time in my life. I got out but not without consequences. I’m hoping that, going forward, I’ll be better equipped to deal with these types. I was befriended by another one a decade after the first but I recognized the signs much earlier and was able to distance myself immediately without too much trouble. I do worry that I’ll miss the signs one day. I seem to be a magnet for these types. I remember reading about your story about the betrayal of your first love — I’m so sorry for what you’ve been through. If I had the opportunity to reconnect with mine — seeing as I still love him — a betrayal like that would devastate me. You’re a very strong woman.