Why are you asking that question?

Mario Zamora
Sep 5, 2018 · 2 min read

Do you know what you’re really after when you ask a question? I’m just asking you because I want to make sure that you’re not spending it on the things that don’t matter. You only have so much time to live. And you only have so much energy. Are you spending it on the right questions? That’s all I’m asking. If you don’t know what you’re spending your time on then you’re not taking advantage of what you have. I’m asking you, do you really know what you want?

Why are you asking that? What are you trying to get someone to do? Or, when you ask yourself that question, what are you trying to get yourself to do?

I’m just asking because I wanna know if you understand yourself. Do you really understand what you want? Is your life a reflex? Does it mean anything? Do you want to connect with somebody? Do you want to understand something? Why are you asking that question?

Ask yourself “Why?” Just question yourself and the things that you’re asking until you get to a point where the response resonates. This is what you’re really after, this is the real reason you’re asking. This is the beginning.

If you don’t know the real meaning behind why you’re asking start with “Why am I asking that question?”

Here’s an example of something I asked myself the other day.

Question: Are we asking the right questions?

Q: Why are you asking that question? A: I want to know that I’m spending my time on the right things.

Q: What makes something the right thing to work on? A: There should be a positive outcome.

Q: How do we know if things are getting worse? A: We see things trending down.

Q: Why is it important to that we see an uptrend? A: Progress fills you with energy to become more.

Progress resonated with me because that’s what I was after. When I asked “Are we asking the right questions?” what I really wanted to know was “If I do this, will it lead to the results I want?” By rephrasing “Are we asking the right questions?” to “Will this lead to progress?” there was a spark. By asking “Will this lead to progress?” It made me excited to find solutions. It sparked my curiosity.

Ask yourself “Why am I asking that question?” You’re gonna understand yourself more. The point of this exercise is nothing more than to get you thinking about what you really want, who you really are and what you’re really after. Just practice it and see where it takes you.