What Heartbreak can do to you

Mariska Estelita
Sep 5, 2018 · 3 min read

I once read an article saying that Emma Watson stay silent for about two weeks because of heartbreak. I was wondering, how on earth a beautiful smart and perfect girl like her can experience the heartbreak. How come a man is brave enough to hurt the kind of woman like Emma. But after all, she’s only human like us too. Just like falling in love,heartbreak can also happen to anyone no matter who they are.

Amy Poehler’s Smart Girls. Source: google.com

We all agree that heartbreak never feels good at all. Many broken hearted people need to struggle and even spend many days or years to recover. In my opinion, most people will experience a heartbreak, at least once. We can not deny it.

Most heartbreaks caused by a breakup or the death of our love ones. I still remember how I woke up in the middle of the night for a month after my dad passed away. The memories keep spinning in my head until now. Or I am also quite familiar with the emotion and sadness after a tough break up. The feeling is real, you wanna spend your day just lying on the bed, crying, or doing nothing. First, you will be denial, drown in sorrow and empty. It’s so natural for us, as human being. Then the phase will come after denial, you’ll be angry, and finally accept the reality. That everything is not the same anymore, that you need to continue your life, that everything will be alright in the end.

Although broken heart doesn’t literally means your heart break and turn into pieces, it does stimulate physical reaction to your body. Studies have proven that our brains react to heartbreak the same way they react to physical pain. This means that when you’re recovering from being dumped, you might actually feel physical pain. Stress can cause our immune system to not work as well. Moreover, there are some symptoms occurred when you had a heartbreak. One of the most common symptoms are angina(chest pain) and shortness of breath. You can experience these things even if you have no history of heart disease. Arrhythmias (irregular heartbeats) or cardiogenic shock also may occur with broken heart syndrome.

Researchers also say that experiencing heartbreak is similar with someone experience withdrawal symptom. Falling in love makes you addicted to someone or feeling. When someone who is addicted to drugs or alcohol gives up their vice, they’ll go through withdrawal symptoms. Their bodies are not used to live without whatever that they were addicted to. Some of us can be addicted to love or to our attachment when we were in relationship. Now that it was lost, our body will also show reaction.

But then, what can we do to overcome this heartbreak? My answer is, let it go. It will take times, days, months, or maybe years. You need to let it all go, cause it’s over. Remember that heartbreak is not the end of you life. God has given you a life that a lot of dead people wanted. Don’t waste it just because someone hurt you so bad. Go find new place, new friends, new adventure, new activity, and one day, new love. Exercise regularly. Go chase your dreams. Your past will not change, but let it become a lesson that change you to be a better person, who knows better what you want and who you want in your life. Stay away from toxic environment or toxic people. Stay away from friends who used to make fun of your relationship failure, or some people who just remind you of your past.

Make peace with your past.

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