Life sucks then you die! How many times have you said it or heard it in your lifetime? Be honest now. Shoot I just used it this morning when I woke up. LOL

There are so many sayings about life, life sucking and dying that we could go for days with a list. That’s what makes up this crazy, insane and maddening world we live in better known as a mishegoss world.

Mishegoss as you may know if you have followed this blog and read the about section is a Yiddish word meaning craziness, insanity and madness both good and bad. That’s the main thing I try to impress on people when I talk or write about mishegoss. There are two sides and you need to know the difference.

Life in a mishegoss world revolves around living in this world that is otherwise sane on most days. Life may suck, but in most cases you won’t die unless it’s your time. I mean, how many times have you said it like I asked before, but you are still here reading this post?

Think about how many times in a day life sucks, but you still make it home only do go through another life sucking moment at home or the next day in your life. Hey, life sucks face it, but that’s what we live for. I don’t mean we really want life to suck, but we expect it and deal with it. Most days.

There are days when I am sure like me, you just want to get away from it all. Sail off to a deserted island or a remote field where you can just forget about the suckieness of life. Although that doesn’t happen, does it?

*By the way I will be using words that don’t exist according to the spell checker in the English language, but they fit the theme of this post. Sorry to my former English teachers.

Moving Thru Life

We move through our days fast and many times we forget to smell the roses as we go. Maybe we don’t forget as much as not have the time. What we need to do is make the time. We need to smell the roses during a sucky day. We really do!

Making time to deal with the suckiness of life is important. It isn’t just going to wash away or at least not usually. It may go away for a minute or two, but it lingers in our mind like gum on the bottom of our shoe. You know that one piece of gum you picked up from the sidewalk or your carpet at home on the bottom of that one shoe.

Life sucks because it can, but the good news is life may suck but we don’t. That’s right friend, we don’t suck. We are the best of the best. We are strong, inspired, extremely resourceful people that can deal with anything. Right?

We needn’t worry about us sucking. We needn’t worry about anyone else sucking either. We only have to deal with life sucking and getting through it all. That’s the easy part. Think about it. You do it every day so I know everyone can get through it without dying.

I have always lived by this philosophy about life:

Some days you eat the bear and other days the bear eats you!

This philosophy doesn’t fit everyone, but when you think of life in a general way it really does fit each and everyone one of us. There is another quote I like from the great Yogi Berra, former catcher for the NY Yankees that goes like this…

When you come to a fork in the road, take it.

Yogi Berra

I’ve gone with this one a few times during my life also. Especially when I was working in the investment field of startups. In most cases it worked. Thank God.

Life is a daily journey from what I have learned over my 60 years on this earth. I have gone from not walking to walking. To be told I would never walk again to walking against the odds. I have gone from being very sick to be extremely healthy to be sick again only to become healthy again. A yo-yo of a life. I know.

But that’s what life is. A yo-yo handling the ups and downs of a life that may or may not suck depending on your own perspective.

Does my life suck now? Hey, I can’t lie. Sometimes yes, but most days no. Family and friends make the difference. Although sometimes they help to a sucky day, don’t they?

What I have learned is I am not going to die from a sucky day, unless it’s my time. I’m not worried about dying either since I can’t control it. Even when I am in the car with my teenage son who is learning to drive. What can I do to prevent my death? Nothing!

Believe me, I have analyzed this for some time now. Between driving with my son Andrew and Pattie my wife, my death or near death experiences are for me to enjoy and live through. God or whoever is up there has other plans for me as far as I can see.

With all of this mishegoss going on in the world the one thing that stands out from everyone is their creativity to deal with it. Their wisdom to understand it and their strength to deal with it. Everyone has those characteristics within them. You just have to find them.

Don’t let anyone tell you different. You have all of those characteristics and more to deal with a sucky day or life. I don’t care what anyone says. You have them.

Now the big thing is how you use them? Another huge thing is how you find them? That’s where smelling the roses comes in. You need to smell the roses.

I happen to enjoy the ocean. Low tide, high tide who cares what the smell is like. I love the ocean and everything to do with the ocean, even the sharks as long as they leave me alone.

My dream getaway is driving 3 hours, or in the case of Patti driving about 2 hours and 15 minutes to Cayucos. Cayucos is a little city on the West Coast on the ocean of about 2600 people. My type of getaway. In just the few times we’ve been there people are getting to know us.

They have great food, great shops and a great deal of smelling the roses time for me and Patti. Even our kids and grandkids have come to love it. Our grandson Nolan gets Cayucos mixed with his favorite show at 4 years old Caillou. So it comes out like Caiyaucos. But we know what he means, especially me.

It’s my selling the roses syndrome. Even though the drive there takes a few nitro’s (heart MEDs) moments to get through it with Patti driving. Sorry to pick on Patti, she isn’t that bad of a driver. I can’t drive so I better shut up.

In the end, it’s the moments like that, that don’t make life suck. It’s the moments when the kids and grandkids are begging to eat or they want a toy, even the parents of the grandkids that makes life worth it. That’s smelling the roses folks.

I listen to the complaints from my kids and grandkids and laugh about them and love hearing everything they have to say. Even the nagging from Patti for me to take my meds or insulin shot is a breath of fresh air in Cayucos. Want to know why?

I smell the roses of life. I hear and feel those roses all around me through little voices and older voices. They might be fighting or complaining or telling Patti and I they love us. It’s all roses to me. It makes life not suck!

Isn’t that what this life is all about? Our world is meant not to suck. If it does we can fix it with simple things. Listening to a voice of reason or wisdom or the cries of a little one. It’s life in its most simplest form that makes it not suck.

Enjoy life and don’t let the suckiness of life ruin the beauty of life. I promise if you do that the suckiness goes away faster and life becomes what you want of it. Beautiful!

Here’s to a great life!

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