“Well. Usually instead of saying ‘I am turned on by that woman,’ a man will say ‘that woman is hot.’”
“The narrative that is most comfortable for straight men is that some super beautiful woman appeared out of the blue and basically made him get horny, and zomg she was SO HOT it totally wasn’t his fault.”
I’m not sure that you’ve got this right. I can see a beautiful woman and think “that woman is hot” without getting or being horny at all. “hot” <> “horny”.
Think, as anyone does, about a hot car. Doesn’t mean you want to have sex with it. Maybe in it, but not with it.