Thank you for the beautiful letter and insight. I lost my wife of 28 years in 2011 and have written and podcasted on that loss and grief and moruning. I to see and feel Donna some days. I have learned that grief and loss are idiosyncratic and personal to each of us like a fingerprint. We all do it differently and like you, grief and loss are not something you avoid but face it and attack it head on. It is as if we are weaving a tapestry of memories that we carry with us not as a shroud but comforter that can embrace as we need to put the world around us in place.
Here are some of my podcasts on grief and loss
The Arc of Loss, Mourning, Grief, and Release
"We do not believe in ourselves until someone reveals that deep inside us something is valuable, worth listening to…www.bioc.net
Patrick O'Malley writing in the New York Times Opinionator section Couch addressed the topic of grief with his piece…www.bioc.net