Mark Tim Timblin
Aug 22, 2017 · 3 min read

Kris,

My first post ever here, just wanted to tell you how much I enjoyed reading how to really know you’re in love. A good piece, however; as a man who has been married to his soulmate for almost 36 years now as she says we are joined at the heart. Love….is, it just is. Love is….work….a LOT of work. It is also true of relationships where a man & woman are in a committed relationship.

If I start to not make sense I do apologize, at the tender age of 60, (tomorrow the 23rd. is my bday), I found out about 2 weeks ago I may be having TIA’s commonly known as mini strokes so my once sharp mind is more rounded now.

Any how, Love as you or someone pointed out is acceptance. If we had not accepted each other and what we both brought into our relationship our relationship would have been over before it began. My wife had been married before, he was in the Army as was I at the time, my best friend and they lived next to each other. I was deployed to Germany for 4–5 months,came back found out her 1st husband died, she went to church one Sunday morning came home found him dead on the floor. She had to move off base asked me to come see her new home it took me a couple of months due to my schedule so in lieu of putting it off any longer asked her out. We were engaged after 4 months and married 4 months after. By the way she had already miscarried 1 baby with hubby #1, in total she miscarried 4 times total. On the other hand, had we not accepted each other our son who was born with Down Syndrome might have only had one parent. However we kept accepting one another added a daughter to our family as well.

I am totally and permanently disabled as a disabled veteran and medically retired Dept of Corrections injured in the line of duty,(prison riot). If things had gone one way or another I might not be sitting here writing this now. Love or being in love or knowing you’re in love or how to know you’re in love is a lot of little things, it is everything you said and more so much more. OK once you know you’re in love then what? What are ya gonna do once you know you are in love? A loaded question, I’m sorry, there are a lot of things you can/could do, how about asking your partner if he/she how they feel about it. If they don’t love you back its gonna get a bit awkward and a bit hysterical maybe. If your partner loves you like you love them then what? marriage, live together, again more questions that need an answer at some point.

Even if you live together love is something that you give no thought to but you just do. I can say after 36 years together that I would most definitely be lost without my wife. Although we love each other dearly, we both value our time apart, I have my hobbies which my wife says are my hobbies and she doesn’t want to do, same with me, I’m not big on gardening she is. Though we are one half of each of us even though we have our own things to do, even though we may not always agree on something we together make up the whole of us.

Guess I probably went on too long but I do like what you say, but you let it go too soon. maybe because you yourself haven;t been in love yet? A deep meaningful to death do we part love, that is one you have to answer my dear. Be well, stay safe, God bless!

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    Mark Tim Timblin

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