Magnificent honesty and insight here. Reflecting after reading the article, I tried to access feelings of shame about being turned on by anyone, and I had to go way back into pubescence to find something that felt like that. However, I was raised in a pro-sexuality family, and have been a tantrika, enjoying the benefit of the Tantra community, for many years. You might poke around on some of their sites, and see how people are healing themselves through a very wide variety of approaches:
Facebook page: Tantra Without Borders — Tantrikas, Unite!

Be well.