Highlighted by Mark Warner
From Thirteen things I wish I’d learned before choosing non-monogamy by Lola Phoenix
I found myself in my relationships trying to manipulate situations so that I got what I really wanted without having to ask for it because asking directly for something you need and being told by someone you care for greatly that they refuse to do it is absolutely gut-wrenchingly horrifying. And the greater my need for any one thing, the less likely I was to ask directly for it.