Excellent writing and story! So relatable. As someone from the Midwest who went to a small college there, I can relate to that limbo status from a year I moved home before moving to NYC. Bar culture was huge in my limbo location and I’m very happy I got out as well.
Great points! I’ve definitely been there in co-dependent relationships and I think by the obsessive, infatuated, intense nature of love some drop off/neglect of self is inevitable at the beginning. But to strive to maintain a sense of self and loving life is commendable and necessary to keep the relationship alive. Because, as you mention, complete co-dependence is eventually a dead end road.
Great read! I have been in NYC 7 years and have moved 17 times and can relate to the ridiculous living situations, roommates issues, high rent and low pay, working from home in bed (because, who has office space), and also see the flip sides you mentioned like feeling terrified randomly when visiting quaint, desolate places, being downcast about lack…
Excellent point! Living in NYC I’ve seen and experienced that life of work, consumption and status that never ends. I’ve also been happy to give that life a break and enjoy my relationships and life more. Thanks for the thought-provoking article.
Great tips! After working at home and in offices, I find it optimal to be able to do a combination of work at a co-working space or office some days and work from home maybe 30% of the time. Of course, that is an ideal world for me and my line of work:).