The Real Relationship behind Luke Skywalker and Darth Vader
What if during the entire Star Wars Original Trilogy, Luke Skywalker knew all along that his father was Darth Vader and their love for each other wasn’t shrouded by evil or war? What if they lived a typical, happy life together as father and son, the way we do now? First thing would be, the movies would suck, but more importantly, we would be able to see how Darth babied Luke his entire life, watching over his every move and made sure he did nothing wrong, in order for Luke to become the greatest Jedi to ever live. Yes, Darth Vader would’ve been a helicopter parent to Luke because Luke is a reflection of his father, and if Luke looks bad and fails, so does Darth.
This “Theory of Reflection Parenting” is based upon research done by myself, and states that the reason kids often fail in their later lives such as at college (or becoming a Jedi) is because of the amount of parenting, babying and helicoptering the mom and dad do throughout the child’s lives and into college to ensure the kids success, and so that the parents look good as well. If a child has a poor reputation throughout their lives, the parents are typically a reflection of that reputation, which leads to them making sure their kids do everything right and never fail. Seems pretty amiable right, growing up with parents who make sure nothing ever goes wrong for you? However, this actually has negative effects on the kids in their later years because they don’t possess the required skills and traits to live independently. Therefor putting them a heaping step behind everyone else in the transitioning stage from high school to college.
Transitioning college kids become accustomed to all of the help, and never seek a life of independence, which in turn leads them to never finding out that the “force is within” them.
This is becoming a surprisingly common case among freshmen at Western Washington University. A recent poll done by myself, found that 20–30% of freshmen at Western weren’t fully prepared for their new lives at college because they still held such strong ties with their caregivers back home, and didn’t want to leave their safety nets behind. But how come they were feeling like this, isn’t college supposed to be a big personal transition from childhood to adult hood and independency? Yes it is, but these students felt as if they weren’t equipped with the proper skills and knowledge to get through college living on their own, at least not the first year. Transitioning students are finding it harder and harder for themselves to acclimate to the life of college and I believe that it’s only going to get worse.
As more children are raised without experience of independency and failure, I approximate there will be a greater number of college drop outs or transfers. That may seem a tad extreme but if kids aren’t ready to take college by the horns then they shouldn’t be there because it’s too difficult for them to handle everything, which only turns into money lost. The freshmen who are experiencing this difficulty tend to drop out of college as a whole or go to a community college back home where things are easier for them.
The worst part of this is, is that I don’t see this style of parenting coming to an end, but more so, turning into a norm for modern society.
I see it in the youth in my small hometown of Dutch Harbor, Alaska (population of 4,500), and on campus at Western Washington University. I can only assume how common this is around the rest of the country, but I am being lead to understand that it is more normal then what I once thought. If this style of parenting is for some reason starting to catch on and become more normal, what will happen to our youth as they venture out into the world and onto college? I can’t tell you for sure, but from what I’ve seen, if children continue down this road, the only thing they will reach at the end of it is failure and this time there will be no one to pick them up.