Better to be interested; Than try to be interesting

People like to be understood. If you want others to like you first you have to like them and make them feel important. As if you talk to someone and most of the discussion is about you the other person will lose his interest, and the same happens to us. If you want to build a good bond with someone else, make them feel how important they are to you. its gives a good gesture to others to take an interest in them to know more about their interests, what they like, what they don’t like and knowing and remembering their birthdays. This make them feel that you are valuing them. Listen to them and interested in what they want to share with you.
“show interest in people because they are interested in themselves”
Another important thing is remembering others name, it makes them more familiar. As Dale Carnegie stated that;
“Remember that a person’s name to that person is the most sweetest and most important sound in any language”
A nother thing to pay attention while meeting other is keep smile, it makes them feel that you like them and they make you happy. Be a good listener is very critical thing for being conversationalist. Caring someone feelings, like them to discuss their interest and hobbies will make you a good listener. If you want to care about someone else, first you have to discover what you like most in them and this will surely make you to admire them. By telling them about your admiration you can make more good friends.

I would like to share my experience of applying these lessons in my life;
I have meet my college friend after a long time. she was my good friend at college. But after college our bond weakened because we do not have many time to listen each others university gossips and all day routine. Our friendship became just confined to social media, but now when we meet again I show interest in her. I asked her about her routine and what she is doing now. I have listen her carefully which make her feel more valuable.
So I have learned some lessons as following:
- I learned to talk less and listen more.
- Call them by their name.
- Ask about their divination of future.
- Understand their emotions.
- Be curious.
- Give genuine compliment.
