Love without pain is unrealistic but that is what most people want and at the sight of any conflicts that may lead to pain the majority of people tend to vanish. I believe that is one of the pivotal reasons why there are so many broken homes in America. I mean why struggle, hurt, and sacrifice for anyone when we live in the land of the free that allows people to move on in a blink of an eye? You do whatever makes you happy is the philosophy that drives the psyche of these cowardly (I was once this way also) individuals.
But what about if what you think is making you happy is ironically causing you more pain than if you were to stay in that painful relationship? Let me explain from my personal experience with living by the philosophy mentioned above. During my first few years in college I decided to see how many women I could be in a relationship with at the same time because more leaves no room for pain to sneak in but if it did then it’s on to the next number I have in my phone.
During my second year college I noticed that each relationship I found myself in led to pain after awhile. Mentally I was confused, empty, and depressed. Man, I just wanted to be happy! At that time in my life I knew no other way of finding happiness but through relationships with the opposite sex but that just wasn’t given me what I needed.
A good friend of mine gave me the greatest advice ever during a random phone call when he stated," You should try living for Jesus. He can provide true happiness that is everlasting but His love isn’t pain free. His love is worthy of pain though!" I decided to take him up on his offer and I grabbed a hold of Jesus with all my heart (actually I’m sure Jesus grabbed a hold of me first) and I never looked back.
It has been years since that second year of college and I’ve felt a lot of pain but as my friend stated,"His love is worthy of pain" that results from sacrificing, hurt, and struggling. And through my relationship with Jesus I’ve learned that people are worthy of battling through pain with also because true happiness comes when people can walk through the rain of life side by side and come out into the sunshine together.