Jun 13, 2020BECAUSE Keynote 2014: Holding HandsI was nineteen years old, at a party in college, and this friend of mine, Kira, had just broken up with her live-in boyfriend. I asked her if she needed a place to crash, and she looked at me for a moment, paused, and said, “Only if you know what…11 min read11 min read
Jun 21, 2018The ArrivalSan Francisco, Chicago, London: first days of April 2005 Four days before my departure for Sri Lanka, it is seven a.m. and I am standing in an airport in San Francisco. I was in Connecticut two weeks before, visiting my parents, have been in the Bay Area for a week…Sri Lanka15 min readSri Lanka15 min read
Published inGay Mag·Apr 3, 2018Member-onlyBreathing SpaceThe body my immigrant parents may never understand — The news broke with a phone call from England. A distant relative, calling my Sri Lankan American immigrant parents in Connecticut and asking them, “Do you know what your daughter is putting on the internet?” They said, “What’s the internet?” It was 1991; the World Wide Web didn’t exist yet…Writing7 min readWriting7 min read
Sep 15, 2016Easier to Pull Him OutI phrased and rephrased, trying to find a way to tell my son’s first grade teacher what was likely to work with him, without making him sound like a troublemaker. “Anand is high-energy, full of enthusiasm and full of ideas, many of which he thinks are funny. …Education7 min readEducation7 min read
Jul 26, 2016The Window: On Writing, Cancer, Emotional Labor, and TimeThere’s a quote in Lois McMaster Bujold’s novel, A Civil Campaign. Miles is talking to Ekaterin, the woman he loves, and he’s telling her how frustrated he’s been, watching her constrained to small steps, when she could be outrunning time. …Writing6 min readWriting6 min read
May 30, 2016Towards a More Welcoming WarIn this volume of the Wiscon Chronicles, we find ourselves considering what it means to live at the intersections of various identities, some of them more privileged than others. We ask how we can function as good allies to each other in often challenging situations. We’re living through an intense…Racism15 min readRacism15 min read
Mar 4, 2016BirthstonesSuresh sat across the kitchen table from the slender woman, sharing a last evening cup of tea, surprised yet again by how lovely Priyanka had become over the years. When he’d first met her, she’d been a scrawny gamin of a child; now his cousin Priyanka was as gorgeous as…Short Story23 min readShort Story23 min read
Feb 21, 2016Navigating Masculinity: A RoundtableMary Anne: I’m Mary Anne Mohanraj, your host for this discussion of intersections and alliances; we’ll start with questions of maleness and masculinity and go on from there. I’m a writer, English professor, and mom; I identify as a bisexual Sri Lankan-American cisgender woman. I had a brief tomboy period…47 min read47 min read