Reminders for Myself in 2016 (and the rest of my life)

Your parents can become your friends, if you let them.

“Everyone has their own path.” / “Don’t look left and right, just look straight ahead.”

Most human-centered problems have to do with an imbalance of love.

“Ghosting” is unacceptable. (Listen to this podcast. Simon Sinek talks not only about leadership, but touches upon the humanitarian issues we face today.)

You cannot love someone else if you do not love yourself first.

Balance is everything. No one is perfect. Do not strive for perfection unless you want to go insane. Straddle the line between perfection and imperfection, but aim to be on the side of perfection.

The key to working out is to love your body for what it does for you.

My best friend had her colon removed at 22. Her experience forced me to realize how fortunate I am to have working organs.

When you feel like shit, talk to yourself like you would talk to a 5 year old child you are taking care of.

The son of one of my previous co-workers. (Sorry Jared — Henry’s just so cute!)

Your mental health is equally as important as your physical health. Do. Not. Forget. That. The current stigma

The more self-respect you have, the more respect other people will have for you.

At the end of the day you only have yourself. You can only rely on yourself.

No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent” Eleanor Roosevelt

Self-love is not just about self-image. It’s about eliminating those nagging voices in your head that tell you you aren’t good enough or you aren’t worth it and banishing those insecurities.

Sleep is SO important for not only your physical health, but your mental health. (Resource for insomniacs & people who want to sleep)

Being vulnerable and open is a good thing. Being emotional is awesome. No one likes robots.

When you’re lost, turn to your role models. Read their stories, hear about their struggles and it’ll help you feel less alone.

  • Amy Poehler is another mom/friend I wish I had.
  • Frank Chimero’s writing brings me to tears.
  • If you’re burnt out, read this.
  • Ruby Rose fans already know her Instagram is usually sprinkled with bits of her journey.
  • Comedians will not only make you laugh, but through their jokes you’ll realize that they’re struggling too, despite their ability to make $$$ to make you laugh. #META

When you feel bad about your life, take inventory of your life. Write down every single little thing that you have that you care about and then read it. 
(I live in one of the greatest cities in the world. I live in an awesome apartment in the neighborhood I wanted. I have a cozy bed. One of my close friends lives 10 min away from me. I can order any food I want with my phone. Etc.)

When you feel too much, let yourself feel it all and then pick yourself up once you’re done. “Pain demands to be felt”

You may never love every single part of your body at once, but just focus on the parts you do love and why you love them.

Just because you laugh every so often does not equate to you being happy. Pay attention to the type of vocabulary you use in your everyday conversations. How many negative words have you used vs. how many positive words have you used?

We live in a “screen-ful” world now. Remember to go analog regularly:

  • read a book (not on a Kindle)
  • go for a walk
  • spend time in nature
  • sketch in your sketchbook
  • sit somewhere, drink coffee, and watch other people or animals IRL

Let yourself eat the donut sometimes. Life is about balance.

Feeling uninspired? Write down a list of everything you like and think about why you like those things.

Everyone has 2–3 “magic” hours in a day. Use them wisely.

Solitude and meditation (this does not necessarily mean focusing on your breathing) is important to your well-being. Sometimes laying in bed and thinking about nothing and everything is helpful.

Change is inevitable. The more you embrace it and accept it, the happier you will be. If you feel like shit now, don’t worry you won’t feel like that forever. (re: Amy Poehler’s section in her memoir titled “Time Travel”)

“Your ability to navigate and tolerate change and its painful uncomfortableness directly correlates to your happiness and general well-being.” —Amy Poehler

(I just saved you $16.99. But seriously, read the book. It’s worth it.)

Self-love is powerful. The media and society doesn’t want us to know that.

Lean on your friends and family when you need to. It’s like an automatic “power-boost” like in a video game.

Take a break. Don’t feel guilty about it. You’re taking care of yourself.

Or take a real vacation

Animals more oftentimes are more helpful than humans.

This is Bella. She’s the love of my life. Unfortunately I only get to see her when I visit home, but that’s what makes visiting home so exciting!

You do not need someone else to fill the void.

The key to lasting relationships is to have the ability to ignore each other every so often and be able to return and pick up where you left off. No blame. No hard feelings.

“Your worth is not defined by the men who won’t text you back or stay the night” —via @jessicakatoff on Instagram

As long as you think it’s okay, it’s okay.

You are worthy and you are enough.