I am an American. I am not an American.
Ben Werdmuller

Even growing up in Britain as British (and more specifically English), I was a bit othered because my mother had lived in Paris and London and 13 years in the US with her second husband; I didn’t realise until I was in my 30s that I grew up with the US definition of fine (the very passive aggressive agreement rather than the UK ‘oh, sure, whatever’) and it took my to my 40s to realise that the spaghetti sauce I thought everyone made that way was an American Italian red meat sauce. I’ve moved around so much in my life that I don’t feel I’m ‘from’ anywhere; there’s where I was born, and where I live and where I’ve been, but I’m not ‘from’ any of those. I started to feel much more British after starting to spend longer periods of time in the US. To me, it feels more about whether you’ve been immersed in a homogenous culture or one that expects there to be lots of different approaches and directions around.

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