What’s so sad about what I see is that it’s so normal. I don’t see myself as a victim in an otherwise safe society, I see myself as a completely normal and unremarkable member of the female gender. I see women who have experienced more violence than me, and women who have experienced less violence than me, but I don’t see women who don’t experience violence. The fact that some women have experienced more, worse sexual violence only means that they need more help not that I need less help or that my emotional response to a traumatic event is invalid. As I tell my female friends about my experience, basically all of them remember experiences when they felt similarly and just absorbed it. When I told my ex girlfriend (a lesbian who has only had sex with a man once) she was confused, and asked me why I hadn’t told her all this while we were dating. I said “it didn’t occur to me, it just didn’t seem unusual.” Because it’s not unusual.
What I Learned From Dating Women Who Have Been Raped
Emma Lindsay

I find this to be true - I work with so many women on their creative/sexual expression and when you go deep - there is violence - rage and pain. I would deeply love to change the formula that women inherit from our families and society. It really is not OK - to not be able to inhabit our true sexual/creative selves. It makes me so ANGRY! x

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