Key word here is ‘should’. Some of us love just a little stronger (our inner selves will not allow anything different), but many don’t receive what they give. At best, there is a meeting in the middle, a compromise of knowing one is doing their utmost, and accepting that the other is doing THEIR utmost (even if it is not of the same level the other is ‘needing’).
Thanks for being so honest and true . . . your posts are enlightening and appreciated.