I HATED Feedback. Here’s why… and how I overcame it.
I made a thing. I loved the thing. Every part of it was purposeful and thought out. I shared the thing. Other people said my ideas and implementation need to be changed, and therefore I’m no good at this.
That’s literally what used to happen in my head everytime I received feedback on my freelance video work.
It was torture, because I took everything personally.
Don’t take feedback personally. That’s just your biased, self-preserving EGO talking.
I am a self-diagnosed ego maniac. I love to feel good about myself, and I love to feel like I’m better than other people. It’s the reality of my nature, and a habit I’ve worked to keep at bay.
My ego is biased, and so is yours. We all think we are right, and want to prove it, in order to prove our value. The problem here is, your value is not based in whether you are right, but your ego is. So you have to separate them, and learn to be okay with being wrong.
You are intrinsically valuable as a human being. Even if you are the personification of Patrick Star, you are valued. If you accept that truth, now you are permitted to be wrong, and your value does not change. Now that you can be wrong, your ego doesn’t have to speak up to preserve your self worth.
So let’s bring this inner philosophy out into the same situation.
I made a thing. I loved the thing. Every part of it was purposeful and thought out. I shared the thing. Other people suggested changes. I made those changes. The thing I made is even better now. People enjoy the thing I made.
In truth, feedback is your best friend… because it makes you better.
Thanks for reading :) The green heart helps more people see it, and gives me an ego boost. Sharing it with someone gives me a triple ego boost.
This philosophy on feedback was learned by working with Cy Wakeman. @cywakeman across social. She’s great, and a #client of VaynerTalent :)