“I met a group of women online, white women wanting… yearning to know how to be better allies. As a naturally skeptical person, this is not something I quickly supported.”
Do you like to be treated with suspicion? Because how exactly do you expect to receive “support”, when you’ve already “entitled” yourself to make said “supporters” run some kinda gauntlet just to prove themselves to you?
So I get your pain, but some of it sounds self-inflicted, like you’re already setting yourself up for ‘failure’ and ‘victimhood’… which of course only further reinforces the vicious cycle of entitlement, ‘specialness’ and continually being treated as some kinda “other”.