Stop Caring About Other People’s Success

Today I want to tell you to stop fucking caring about other people’s success. Why? Because it’s doing you so much harm! Actually it’s doing you more harm than it is good. It’s nice to dream. It’s nice to say, “Oh wow, he’s doing great. I want that.” I have a lot of friends who get together and after a little, all they can talk about it how well so and so is doing. Did you see he sold his business for this? Can you believe he makes X amount of money? It must really be nice to have those things. Wait, why don’t we have that?…It’s because they’re focusing on the wrong person!
If you focused on YOU as much as you focus on all these other people, mayyyybe you’d be doing those things. Mayyyyybe it would be you that other people are talking about. Stop focusing on their success. There’s an amazing picture, it’s one of my favorite pictures of all time, of Michael Phelps swimming. And in the picture is another swimmer in the lane next to him… Michael Phelps is laser focused in front of him. Literally, he’s like mid-butterfly stroke and just laser focused on what’s in front of him and that’s the finish line. Then the guy next to him, again arms out, but he’s looking over at Michael Phelps. The caption is, “Winners focus on winning. Losers focus on winners.” It’s one of my favorite quotes of all time and that picture just captures it perfectly (I decided to make my own version below). Winners aren’t paying attention to who or what’s around them. They’re not paying attention to their competition. They’re not paying attention to anything other than what matters to them and what they need to do to better themselves. I think that a lot of people get that wrong. I think a lot of people sit around, they talk about winners and they never end up doing for themselves.

I’m not saying everybody’s a loser, but what I am saying is you need to stop focusing on these people and you need to start focusing your attention on YOU. I, for a long time, compared myself to other people. When I first got into real estate, the person that hired me was number one in the city in luxury rentals. I’m like, yes, I’m going to learn from the best. I knew after spending one day with him that I was better than this guy. I knew for a fact that I was better. Yet 6 months in and I’m closing 4–5 deals a month and he’s closing 30…. I was like, what in the world is he doing differently? There was a lot of things he was doing differently, but one of the main things that I noticed was that he didn’t care about anybody else. Not in a rude way….he just wasn’t focused on my sales or so and so’s sales or anybody’s sales. He’s focused on him. He’s focused on his processes, his procedures, his daily routine, bettering himself on a day to day basis so that he can ultimately reach his goals. It’s like having blinders. Why do race horses have blinders on? It’s so they can’t focus on all all the shit that’s going on around them. They’re focused on the fucking finish line. And that’s what you need to do. You have got to stop paying attention and focusing on the wrong things. You need to start focusing on yourself and the actions that you need to take in order to get to the places that you want to be. I promise you this, you will never achieve anything if all you’re focused on is other people’s successes. You’ll never achieve anything. You will never achieve the goals that you set out for yourself because you’ll always be comparing yourself to somebody else. You’re never going to get there. You’re just never going to get there. So, like I said, don’t be the loser that focuses on the winner. Be the winner that focuses on fucking winning!
