7 Observations From a Brother Who is 25 Years Old

- dedicated to my little sister


Today is my birthday, and I want to dedicate this post to my little sister who is already 10x the person I am (10:1 is probably the number of grades above 90 she has compared to me in high school). I’ve made 7 observations in 21 years (let’s be honest who remembers anything before 4) that I hope will make her laugh and just let her know her big brother will always be there for her.

7 Observations From a Brother Who is 25 Years Old

  1. Not knowing what you want out of life is fine, not trying to find out the what is not. The best way to solve the what is to not worry about the time it takes to solve the what. Don’t just think but try as many things as you can. Life is much easier when you figure out the what.
  2. Asking people for advice is always a good idea, but take accountability for making the final decision. At the end of your life you don’t want to realize you never had control of it. More importantly by making your own decisions, when things don’t work you can reflect on your own decision making process and improve it.
  3. Stay shameless, but be kind. Shameless is probably a word most people shy away from, but be shameless. To me shameless means to forget what people think of you and their expectations of who you are. By forgetting it frees you to do the things you want and things you may regret not doing. Take for example chatting with Tim Cook on a first name basis at Starbucks at 6:00am in the morning.
  4. People and outcomes can add to your happiness but they should not be able to subtract from it. One of the most important things in life is to be happy, but life is never perfect. When relationships are going well, your career might be swaying or when you pursue something you love you might be running out of money. Point is life is never perfect, but that shouldn’t prevent you from being happy. Your happiness stems from what you can control, and the only thing you can ever control is the decisions you make and how you interpet outcomes.
  5. Don’t ever fight for a slice of cake, just make the cake bigger. Life isn’t zero-sum game. When you win, other people don’t have to lose. It is always advantageous to make both you and the other people better off when you face conflict because your mentality switches from taking to creating.
  6. Just believe the world is out there to help you, expect good things to happen but don’t forget to make sure you’re the right person at the right time. Life is more fun when you think everything is helping you. Stuck in the traffic, life is giving you time to relax before a big meeting. Get laid off, life is just telling you can do so much better. The only thing I’ll add is to prepare yourself for the perfect storm, those are the serendipitous moments that can change your life.
  7. You will never make more mistakes than your brother, but you can make less. I have a 7 year headstart on you sister, so never be afraid to make mistakes. This is the one stat that I’ll always be better(worse?) than you on. Make as many mistakes as you can because you’ll never beat me and every mistake you make gets you one step closer to those few wins you need that matter.
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