That you’d even refer to Neil Strauss was a red flag for me. He’s the canary in the coal mine of a company with terrible business practices, so it’s no wonder the shafts collapsed.

Surprise! When you do non-monogamy without any regard for the wellbeing of yourself or others, you’re going to have a bad time. I mean, of the men you had terrible experiences with, which will go on to make good partners for others in monogamy (without some serious work)?

The failure of toxic living to provide fulfillment is irrelevant to discussions of non-monogamy.