Living with Fear

You’re out having a good time with friends when you see a pretty girl at the bar. Naturally, fear sets in.

Should I go talk to her? What do I say? What if she thinks I’m a loser?

Fear is a basic human emotion that derives from evolutionary survival tactics.

Big lion = fear

fear = run away from big lion towards safety

When we encounter fear in our day-to-day lives, our brain signals that we should be cautious because whatever we are afraid of might hurt us. For example, some people are afraid to speak in front of crowds because they don’t want to bruise their ego by humiliating themselves in front of others.

speaking in public (big lion)= fear

fear = not talking in front of others to stay safe

What if we transformed our perception of fear? Imagine fear as an indicator for what to pursue instead of as a signal for what to avoid. Fear can be used as a tool that propels you into action. It is important to understand and acknowledge when (and why) fear is present. Once fear is understood as an emotion that perceives something non-threatening as a threat, then we can act accordingly. For example, although it may be scary to approach a stranger or speak in public, these situations are not life threatening. So, the associated fear can be written off as unsubstantiated.

Why am I afraid right now? What is there to be scared of?

Fear tends to appear in unfamiliar or uncomfortable situations. This is perfect because people grow by overcoming challenging experiences. Use fear as a compass that directs you towards situations that will force you outside of your comfort zone. Don’t let fear captivate you next time you’re afraid to do something. Instead, let fear motivate you. You’ll be astounded by what you’re capable of.