How To Be Successful

I am eighteen years old, and before I sound like a know it all, I want to make one thing clear: I know nothing. I am just a teenager that is going into college and going through life, still learning. I have however picked up a few valuable lessons in my life thus far, and I wanted to bring them all together, tying in themes and experiences from my life as well as other stories and events I have witnessed or stumbled upon. So, before you click away or block out whatever I am saying, I realize that I do not have the wisdom of Miyagi from Karate Kid nor do I have the life similar to the plot of Rambo, but I do have some knowledge on success and I figured that I’d give my two cents.

1: Be Cocky, But Not Too Cocky

If there’s one thing that people LOVE, it’s confidence. The energy and vibes you give off when you’re confident can be felt by everyone as soon as you walk into the room, and you have to own it. In today’s society, it is easy to be kind and respectful to others privacy and space, but you have to be relentless and daring and take what’s yours. You have to view whatever you’re trying to achieve as a competition, and not stop until you get what you want. 99% of the time, your main competition is yourself. It is all about being a better you, and making sure everyone knows it. Take for instance people like Conor McGregor and Muhammad Ali. These two fighters have a way of pumping up arenas of people before they even throw a punch. It is the way that they carry themselves that really gets people going. The reason that people love them so much despite their cockiness is that it is genuine and real. However, you have to be careful not to be too cocky, because that has the opposite effect on people and can cause you to be isolated and ignored.

2: Dedication

One of my main “things” I do is working out and leading a generally healthy lifestyle. I’ve been doing so for almost two years now, and as with time comes progress and I have people that will say things about how in shape I am, and some people will even ask me for advice on what to eat and how to work out. While I am appreciative of this positive attention, it can be irritating to me because people always look for the easy way out. There’s all these trendy diets that come around every year that “guarantees weight loss or your money back!” and I am sick of these companies trying to fool people into thinking that goals can be achieved in a few weeks, or even months. The truth is that you need to be committed and dedicated to what you want, and you can’t be looking for instant gratification. That is the conflict within this area, is that everyone needs to get what they want right away or they will just give up and quit. When I started working out, for the first 6 months I still looked almost the same as when I started, and I wanted to give up and accept that I could not ever get that six-pack body that is advertised. However, instead of giving up, I pushed through with faith that I will achieve my goals, and within another year I reached my personal goal and since then have learned to love my body and all the effort I put into it. If you have a goal that you’ve always wanted or tried to accomplish and ultimately gave up, my advice would be to give it another shot. Things might not look too hopeful or bright, but they will eventually if you give it a chance.

3: “Love what you do, and you’ll never have to work a day in your life”

For the sake of not trying to sound to cheesy or cliché, I am just going to say it; you have to be passionate for what you’re doing if you want to be successful. That’s it. The reason I used the quote above is because it’s actually true, and I’ll give you an example. When YouTube was created in 2005, there was nothing to think of it aside from a video sharing site, and so it was where people went to post funny or cool videos they created. Twelve years later, it is a multi-million dollar industry and those same people that posted in 2005 are now raking in the cash, and why? Because they’re passionate for what they do. Being passionate for something means that when there is absolutely nothing to gain from it, you still do it anyways because it brings you joy and the money doesn’t matter to you because you’re doing what you love. There’s plenty of other examples as well, but I think you get the main point. You need to have genuine intentions with what you do. If you’re just in it for the money and fame, eventually your motivation will fade and you’ll quit. Stay true to yourself and don’t let anything stop you.

4: Fear

“The fear of death follows from fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time.” This quote resonated with me because of how accurate it is in life. If you truly think and reflect upon one of life’s greatest fears, death, and think of why it is scary, you’ll probably come up with a reason that is similar to this. What makes death so scary is that no one knows when it can happen. You could be walking down the street when all of a sudden someone swerves off the road and hits you and then next thing you know its lights out. You can live to be 15 or you can live to be 115, no one knows. This is why it is very important to have no regrets, and do what you believe your life was made for. Leave no stone unturned, and try new things every day. Whether it is skydiving or traveling, just do it. The reason I am including this on my list is because it ties into the overall idea, and that is to be genuine and true to yourself. You should not let fear drive you away from something. If it is a fear of failure or a fear of even being successful, you have to go into life head first and be a go-getter. This can be a problem in today’s society because we have been taught to rely on things such as money and dependability, when in reality you should not let things limit your potential. Sometimes you have to just say screw it and go for it. You might not get what you wanted, but you’ll be a better person because of it and you’ll be that much more driven to do it again.

At one point in your life, you will face adversity. It is up to you how you respond to it. Some people choose to take it lying down, and some rise up to the challenge and face it head on. In order to be successful however, you have to be willing to be bold and fearless, and take what’s yours, no matter what anyone says. Just as Nelson Mandela said, “It always seems impossible until it’s done.”