No lady. The most important quality is one that will make you proud for your man and desire to give birth to children from him (even if you did not want to before). It can be intelligence, it can be a status, it can be a combination of qualities. Over time, you will find other “most important qualities” in it.
Empathy turns you on?! Ok zoomer.
Another moment. Why do you think that family advice from a person who, judging by his autobiography, leads an erratic sex life, will lead to a result other than an erratic sex life?
Why do you take an example from those who speak beautifully, and not from those who have lived happily for 30, 40, 50 or more years? Take a look around. Somewhere nearby there is a happy but quiet family. Take an example from them.
Learn mathematics from mathematicians, therapy from doctors, and happiness from happy people.