To feed their need for confrontation is only to degrade yourself. Rather than looking for things that offend focus your attentions and your energies only on the things which heighten your awareness of self and emotion. Let go of the needless tension that comes with drama and recalibrate in a way that allows you to work instead on your own shortcomings.
Pull yourself back from the brink by stopping, counting to 10 and taking a deep breath. Remember that the person who offended you is also a human, as broken and as bleeding as you are. They may not say what they mean and (more than likely) their words are coming from a place of deep hurt.
Nothing, perhaps, is more aggravating than being painted with the same brush as other people. This is especially true when it comes to being wrongfully accused or otherwise assumed to be guilty without any due process or evidence in the contrary. When we’re wrongfully accused, we often go to emotional extremes in order to get a perceived sense of justice, but these can backfire and cause us to lose ground in the face of those who would see us hung for the crimes of others.
Third, women fear men who don’t feel manly. They know that the most violent men are men who feel weak and powerless. They’ve often had experiences of men allowing themselves to be gentle and vulnerable, only to have them respond with anger and rage later.