My mom always wants the best for me. I have moved out of my parents apartment long ago but she just recently recognized my right to make my own decisions. She still reserves the right to insist on any dish or seasoning while we are together though.

I have long strived for the right to make my own decisions and this is why I’m happy to give this right to everybody else including my children.

Me and my 3 years old daughter are in the park and is going to walk into a huge puddle. I can say “No” and make the right decision for her but I’d rather say:

— If you wet your shoes we will go home, you may get sick and Mom will be upset.

Now she makes the decision which also means that:

• She is not forced to obey
• She get to learn, experience the real wold consequences of her decision
• I’m not the one to blame for not having fun

Another typical example would be the eating schedule. She gets to stop eating whenever she wants but she won’t get any extra snacks afterwards.

I still make decisions for her when not doing so can significantly hurt herself or people around her. It’s rarely the case though.

It’s always sad for me to look at other parents micromanaging their kids. I think me and my daughter are both having much more fun.