Actually, men and women do respond well to shame.
Violet DeTorres
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I agree with what you have written, and know that the reason I stayed out of trouble, as a youth, was to not bring shame on myself or my family. That said, was it “the shame” that was beneficial, or was it “the fear of shame.” I may have to agree with Brene Brown, as I do not know if those children, or families that were shamed, ever changed their behavior, or benefited from the shaming.