Cultivating Love: Choosing Change by Dr. Ken McGill, LMFT, CSAT

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(This post is an excerpt from Choosing Change #14: Living, Loving and Leaving a Legacy, which is a chapter in the book “Cultivating Love: Choosing Change” by Dr. Ken McGill

“Choice — Purpose is a choice and the answer to the question WHY?; We are who we CHOOSE to be, so we should be very clear who we choose to be… and WHY?; The essence of our humanness is the freedom to choose our attitude in any given set of circumstances” — Richard Leider

“Life is not measured by its duration but by its donation” — Pastor Greg Laurie, Harvest…


Printer-Friendly PDF — Your 68 to 72 Degree Target Chart (Theological — Handout — Dr Ken McGill, 2020)

(This post is an excerpt from Choosing Change #14: Living, Loving and Leaving a Legacy, which is a chapter in the book “Cultivating Love: Choosing Change” by Dr. Ken McGill

In counseling sessions I’m prone to bring up the “68° — 72° degree range” which refers to the temperature and thermostat setting in my office, which is typically set for 70°. I’ve noticed over the years that I, and the people whom I’m visiting with, are comfortable, able to focus, insightful, and…


Printer-Friendly PDF — Your 68 to 72 Degree Target Chart (Handout)

(This post is an excerpt from Choosing Change #14: Living, Loving and Leaving a Legacy, which is a chapter in the book “Cultivating Love: Choosing Change” by Dr. Ken McGill

In counseling sessions, I’m prone to bring up the “68° — 72° degree range” which refers to the temperature and thermostat setting in my office, which is typically set for 70°. I’ve noticed over the years that I, and the people whom I’m visiting with, are comfortable, able to focus, insightful, and function at their optimum when the temperature…


(This post is an excerpt from Choosing Change #14: Living, Loving and Leaving a Legacy, which is a chapter in the book “Cultivating Love: Choosing Change” by Dr. Ken McGill

This post on the subject of Betrayal Trauma, Complex Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD), Sex Addicted Induced Trauma and Emotional Flashbacks was inspired by reading literature on the subjects as well as from listening to “partners” who I’ve counseled with over the past decade. Authors like Pete Walker, Michelle Mays, Jasmin Lee Cori, Dr. Omar Minwalla and other contributors have produced insightful, practical and helpful materials to understand the insidious effects…


(This post is an excerpt from Choosing Change #14: Living, Loving and Leaving a Legacy, which is a chapter in the book “Cultivating Love: Choosing Change” by Dr. Ken McGill

Download this list: Choosing Change — Intimacy Building Behaviors (McGill, 2020)

Every marriage or relationship will be as strong as the daily work that is poured into it, and your shared engagement in actions that build, (re)create, and protect intimacy will no doubt be a part of your work.

So you might ask, what is Intimacy? Good question! I encourage you to think of Intimacy as any bit of knowledge…


(This post is an excerpt from Choosing Change #13: Building Character and Building People, Part 3, in the Choosing Change series).

Printer -Friendly Version — Choosing Change — 24 R’s (McGill, 2019)

Since we’re in the “office or study” part of the house, I’ve taken the liberty to pause and reflect on life lessons that have helped me to become the person that I am. In my “study” I’ve noticed there are certain behaviors that I’ve practiced repetitively that begin with the letter R, that have proven to be beneficial either to me or to others in my life, and…


It’s with great joy that I’m able to announce that the Kindle ebook version of Cultivating Love: Daily Bread For Life, Volume 2 is available for you to download for free in the Amazon bookstore beginning Saturday, November 10th to Wednesday, November 14th!Stay tuned for other opportunities to download this book for free in the future.

You can download the book by clicking the picture of the cover or the link here!


This post is an excerpt of Choosing Change #12: Building Character and Building People.It is also connected to another excerpt, Changing your Mind in the River of Integration (Theological Goals, Activities andSkills)

Changing your Mind in the River of Integration(Psychological) — Printer-friendly version

It’s my hope that by studying this information (in the area of your home you’ve designated as your Study), you’ll achieve your goals by engaging in strategic activity to produce skills that will help you to be more focused in your thinking, to live intentionally with your actions, and to onlyengage in behavior that mutually benefits yourself…


This post is an excerpt of Choosing Change #12: Building Character and Building People.It is also connected to another excerpt, Changing your Mind in the River of Integration (Psychological Goals, Activities andSkills)

Changing your Mind in the River of Integration (Theological)- Printer-friendly version

Thank you for taking time to examine how the integration of these goals, activities, and skills could help you to produce and enjoy the Triangle of Well-being and the experience of good Interpersonal Neurobiology between you and others in your life!

I encourage you to keep these strategies close by and to review them regularly to create…

Dr Ken McGill

Counselor and author of Cultivating Love book series. My passion is helping people heal by integrating theological, psychological and addiction tools.

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