
That sense of having had the good fortune to choose and be chosen by the ones we love is a powerful part of feeling willing to address discomfort and conflict in relationships. That lucky feeling and feeling of total gratitude for the one we’re with is significant, particularly when it’s shared with our partners.
…e with healthy hearts, we don’t complain of “boredom” with our partners, because we understand that they are not here to amuse, distract, or otherwise entertain us. Their lives are not fuel for our amusement, they are not here simply to delight and distract.