Thank you. I’m white and where I live the big problem is anti-Muslim prejudice. That description of the bodily response you get when someone says something prejudiced struck a chord. The discomfort is nothing of course compared with actually being Muslim and hearing that (or worse, experiencing assault or verbal abuse directed at you). But as a member of the dominant racial group who doesn’t hold those views, I find these moments paralysing. And when it comes from someone you know or care about it’s all the more upsetting because by speaking out you have to put your relationship at risk, even if momentarily. I try to tell myself, well, if they are willing to voice their opinions they need to be willing to hear that others don’t agree with them, and over time I am trying to become more vocal because yes silence is complicity. I also try to have a more broad conversation with the person if I can because I think it can be important to try to understand why people think the way they do and try to bridge the divide somewhat, rather than contribute to further polarization. But this isn’t always possible. Also what you identified, racism / prejudice from someone from a group that has been persecuted themselves is a whole other level of unexpectedness and confusion. My partner is from a non-white migrant background and I remember once one of his relatives (a senior male) telling a racist joke about indigenous people. I was new to the marriage and new to meeting my in-laws and I absolutely lacked the confidence to challenge him. I think all I managed was to show I didn’t find it amusing. Not enough.