Today’s topic: “Extended” family
I went with some girlfriends to see the movie, “Crazy, Rich Asians” this week. There was a detail about the main male character, Nick, in the movie that was touched on but not explored in depth, which I found particularly interesting… That is, he’d essentially been raised by his grandmother as a small child. His mother was capable of raising him, but as they explain in the movie, it was a decision necessary in order to ensure that the grandmother left Nick the family fortune, since grandma clearly didn’t accept Nick’s mother. It struck me as…
I feel guitly leaving my family for a few days to attend a writers retreat. It’s a selfish idea, but I really want to make headway on a book and meet other women writers. I sense I need this deep at the base of my spine; a few days of blissful writing, community, and inspiration.
But there is also a knot at the pit of my stomach, and I question if I’m supposed to be here.
“It’s bad timing, I haven’t written enough, I’m too far away from finishing my work…” the guilt rests on my shoulders like a heavy…
Today’s topic: “Parent” — noun or verb?
One of my friends works for one of the direct-to-consumer (DTC) DNA sequencing companies (whom will rename nameless). We were talking recently about the fact that they get a very high rate of customers who discover surprising and shocking things when they take the tests — incorrect paternities, half-siblings they didn’t know they had, etc. etc. You know, all those good, juicy, perfect-for-Jerry-Springer situations where your sister slept with your husband or your aunt had a love child no one knew about…
“But it won’t happen to me!” we all think, as we…
Today’s topic: Foster parents-in-waiting
We had dreams of adopting a child who needed a family. Not a baby, but a kid. Someone in the akward age range of 2–6 whom isn’t as easy to love as a baby. Who isn’t as easy to mold. Who isn’t as easy to pretend they are yours when they first arrive on your doorstep. But, a kid who needs love too, nonetheless. A kid who needs the support of a stable home, parents who meet their needs, of regular meal times and good schools, fun playdates. …
How do we know what events in our lives still haunt us now? That trigger our deepest emotional reactions when we don’t even realize (or want) them to? And if we’re lucky enough to discover them, how do we let them go so we can heal and move on?
When I was in the fourth grade (I assume it was the fourth grade, though now that I think about it, all my “memories” are from the fourth grade. Maybe I just merged them all together. I find it hard to think that year was so traumatic)… when I was in…
I recently started listening to podcasts. Not just occasionally, but obsessively. I listen when I get dressed in the morning. I listen when I drive to work. I listen during my lunch break or a walk. I listen when I drive to the gym. I listen when I do chores at home. I listen when I cook (ok let’s be real, I never cook). I listen at any moment when the space would otherwise be empty.
I got hooked when I was learning about new health approaches, bio-hacking, and diets (Keto, Bulletproof, Fasting, etc.)… I wanted to absorb as much…
poetry for the modern tech worker
fluorescent bulbs flicker, air conditioner hums
the lucky ones have open spaces & windows & fancy furniture
but even they are trapped —
by invisible walls, blinding stress
you have no windows
you have real walls
some days this makes you feel free —
free to close a door & talk loud & tell secrets
some days you feel trapped —
stagnant air & aging offices & dirty keyboards
everyone has dirty keyboards
everyone has stained mugs with rings of coffee
marking the days like the rings of a tree
Nor is anything else, for that matter.
We can thank Satya Nadella, Microsoft’s CEO, for reminding us how much work we have left to do on women’s career advancement and the wage gap, especially in Tech. His statements yesterday at the the Grace Hopper Celebration of Women in Computing conference struck a nerve. I know he’s since apologized for it, but I am not ready to accept an apology.
Have you heard of the “Prince Charming” effect? It’s one simple message haunts the psyche of many smart, amazing working women:
Shut up and wait — one day, your…
I’ve been renting movies on iTunes for my business trips — 99 cent rental of the week. 1 hour 45 mins on the plane, just enough time for a movie… total emersion and you wake up in a new place.
When I take a 6:20am flight it means I have to wake up at 4. I need 45 minutes to slowly wake up, put on make-up, get dressed, and get out the door. 20 minutes for the car-ride. 5 minutes to park. 20-40 mins through security and that’s about it. Plane time.
When I watch a movie at 6:20am on…
i have an ascii soul and i like to chew bubblegum.