The Forgotten Message Your Child Needs to Hear This Valentine’s Day

The dollar section at Target is stripped bare.

Classrooms are filled with Sweethearts, Hershey’s Kisses, and cards that say things like, “I’m glad you’re my friend!”

At schools across the country, Valentine’s Day celebrates friendship.

Some kids have fun traditions at home too.

Nothing says “I love you mom!” like a heart made from glue, macaroni and glitter!

This is all great. I am a sucker for anything with a theme, including holidays. My heart melted a little when my niece made me a little purse with nothing but paper, tape, rubber bands and crayons!

But one thing is missing.

What about loving yourself?

I’m not talking about being arrogant, narcissistic, or egotistical.

I’m talking about having a healthy self-image, inherent self worth, and confidence.

Children (and adults!) who have a healthy self-image are less prone to depression, they have better relationships with others, and are happier.

I remember not receiving a Valentine’s Day card from a friend (we’ll call her “Penny”) in middle school. It sucked. But this was a great reminder that Penny’s opinion of me didn’t define me. When you love yourself, you don’t have to rely on the praise or recognition of others to feel worthy. It may hurt your feelings to be snubbed, but you can forgive the person and move on.

Self-love is also about recognizing your strengths and weakness. It’s about celebrating your victories and forgiving yourself when you make mistakes.

So this Valentine’s Day, while you are browsing the aisles full of roses and heart shaped candies, don’t forget to save a little time and love for yourself, and remind your kids to do the same!

About the Author

Megan is an author, illustrator, and an attorney. She writes business books and confidence building books for kids.

Her children’s book I Am a Girl, Hear Me Roar! celebrates the inner strength inside every girl.

Megan’s newest series, Self-Made Lemonade: Let’s Start a Business! tells the story of a young girl who starts a lemonade stand. The story teaches young girls basic business principles.

You can learn more about Megan by visiting her website,