How to deal with your angry children at home

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Children, like adults are different from one another. They have different wishes, likes, dislikes and personality traits. While some are calm and quiet, others restless and naughty. Some might be shy and timid, others bold and desperate. Instead of formulating clear cut rules for all children, parents should accept the fact that each one is different and therefore should be treated accordingly. The difference ought to be celebrated rather than suppressed. Children might go easily angry for snacks or fight with a friend over toys. Usually parents yell at them or ask them to behave themselves and finally they are shut in their rooms for quite some time. These do not seem to help much. In most cases, these worsen the situation. The parents should rather try to understand their children and help them in developing some coping strategies to deal with anger. Here are a few basic strategies that parents should keep in mind while handling a tough child.

1. The talk-therapy

It is psychologically true that talking cure can help a person to feel more comfortable and frank with others. Be a good listener and talk out with your child about things that bother him/her. Ask him to explain what is exactly wrong and what is it that he wants from others. Sometimes they are not in a mood to discuss. Don’t pressurize them. May be it is not the right time. Find out another hour, when your child is happier, to talk about it. Also at times, they prefer to confide in their doll or a pet or even an imaginary friend. In that case, let them be and as for you, note down their conversations if you can follow.

2. Encourage constructive things they like to do

When your child is really mad at you or some other family member for some reason, encourage him to do things he likes like drawing or reading or dancing. Allow him to walk the dog in the park or visit a friendly neighbour. The point is to refocus his thoughts away from anger.

3. Express comfort and love

Do not send away your child to calm down by himself. He needs some sort of attention and care to come back to his normal state. Physical presence, especially a warm hug or a small kiss can work magic in melting the stored up anger. Make them feel loved and accepted by expressing genuine care and affection. However, make sure the child does not take you for granted. There must be some limits set on his aggression. He should have small warnings, if not a proper scolding. Don’t forget to restore connection later.

4. Set a good example

You need to make your child realise the merits and demerits of his acts. A child has a tendency to mimic his adults in every situation. In coping with anger too, they will try to look up to you. They will follow your acts in times of stress and try to apply them to their situation. Thus it is very essential that you do not end up doing something foolish in front of your child. Let him follow a good example and who can it be other than you?

5. Tell him a story

A story with a good moral can help you to shape your child’s behaviour. Try to tell him an interesting story with which he can identify. It can be a story from books or a self made one. Fashion it in such a way so that the child picks up all good habits and leave aside his ugly business.

6. Praise good behaviour

Who does not like to be praised? The children like it even more than adults. Compliment them when they have done something good and worthy. Do not draw unnecessary comparisons with another child. Let everyone be themselves to soar and shine with flying colours.

7. Spend more time with your child

Even if you are a busy bee, spend longer times with your child. Do not make him feel a loner. On holidays, go out for a movie together or take your child to a restaurant. Buy him a surprise gift. Or you may also dedicate a whole day in throwing a kid’s party outside your home. For additional fun and enjoyment, you can go for Bouncy Castle Hire which comes in all equipped for any kind of child’s party or other entertainments.

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