Engineers! My dad is one, and while not remotely sloppy, he is the farthest thing from spontaneous. Maybe I’m stereotyping, but who else could eat at the same restaurant every Thursday for 40 years. LOL!
How to operationalize? This was more about getting our heads straight about the qualities a person would need to have if we were to live with them long term.
If there’s one thing I learned from marriage #1, it was that physical attraction is only the springboard for a relationship. The same with emotion. I came to realize that, just because I loved someone, it didn’t mean I should live with them.