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My question to you was straight up, Jennifer Marie Killgore .

I don’t know why a simple question as to why you weren’t protecting your identity would make you feel “shocked and hurt” if all that had happened was you hadn’t thought about the consequences or had thought about them but had reasons for using your own name anyway.

Since you had been very open about your addiction issues and domestic violence issues, a public explanation of why you were using your real name seemed, to me, to be no big deal. How hard is it to say, “I’m done hiding. I never thought about tainting the jury.”

“Shocked and hurt” sounds more like someone who is surprised that anyone is calling them on their shit. But, I don’t know. That’s just how I might react if someone called me on my shit.

Quite frankly, as long as all we were having was conversations, I could care less if what you were telling us was true. This is, after all, a writers forum, not True Stories. Many times I write fiction, label it as such, and people still think it’s true. I have to repeatedly say, “Thank you for your sympathy, but this didn’t happen to me.”

The point is, whether the personal pieces you write are true or false is irrelevant to me as long as they are well written — your addiction pieces were stunning; you are clearly a talented writer — and spark meaningful conversations that could be useful to readers. Your pieces did that.

What is relevant regarding truth is when those stories are then used to solicit money from others. That’s when I start to care. I would have cared just as much if someone was asking you for money.

My caring is not buyer’s remorse. I have no skin in the game. I did not send you money. But friends of mine, good, kind, caring people did.

Of course you have the right to have a boyfriend. Good for you. You two look very happy together in your photos. I hope you continue to be happy together. No, there is absolutely no reason you need to tell anyone you have a boyfriend….

unless ….

that omission is being used to give a false impression that you are all alone in the world with no family or close friends to help you in a time of need. AND that false impression is being used to garner, not only sympathy, but money.

That’s misrepresentation by omission in my book.

Did I like having to research you? No. I avoided it for a long time. I tried to avoid publishing what I had found by asking you to explain yourself in a public forum. You declined to do so.

I have repeatedly said that I have no facts, only suspicions.

If you want to dance, you have to pay the piper.

If you want people to give you money, you have to expect to be vetted.

Your outrage leaves me unmoved.


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