Some say this phrase is toxic — but is it? — “If he wanted to, he would.” This is a phrase usually used when a woman is dating a man, and she doesn’t think he’s putting in enough effort, or she’s not sure how he feels about her, or maybe he’s not texting back as quickly as he used to. …

How to pursue your passion without burning out — Eight months ago, I quit my job. It was a cushy job. I had great pay and benefits. I liked my boss. Everything was great. On the surface. Underneath that perfect, shiny veneer, I was miserable. I was miserable because I felt like I wasn’t doing what I was supposed…

Seize the present and make it work — “When I lose ten pounds, then I’ll be happy.” “When I get that job I want, then things will really start to turn around for me.” “If I only had more money, things would be a lot easier and I could have everything I want.” These are all things I’ve…

Your feelings and needs are your responsibility. — “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” — Eleanor Roosevelt Actually, no one can make you feel anything without your consent. Your feelings are yours and therefore they are your responsibility. Here’s how to own your feelings and feel good while doing it. What you allow is what will continue Someone can only make…

It’s all about shifting your mindset to be more resilient — It’s easy to feel like we’re stuck. Stuck in a rut, stuck in a situation, stuck in a relationship, stuck being single. Just stuck. When we’re in the trenches of day-to-day life and the walls are closing in, it’s hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel…

Tips for how to better communicate your needs — I’m sitting on a hilltop overlooking the city skyline with my date as we talk about nothing and everything. It’s our first date and things are going well. A chilly breeze wafts by and I shiver. “Can you just — ” I take his arm and put it around me…

Don’t hold onto a person when the signs say they aren’t interested — Something I learned from my therapist is that it’s very possible to hurt your own feelings. To misinterpret a situation, or to hold onto something — like a relationship or love interest — when all the signs are clearly pointing to the fact that the other person isn’t interested. What it means Let’s…

When the dream job is not as great as it sounds, you quit and find something better. — A few months ago, I quit my job and plunged into the unknown. From the outside looking in, it was the dream job. I was set. I had a great salary, great benefits. But I was unhappy. My mental health was suffering. I wasn’t fulfilled in my “dream job” because…

How do I know? I exhibit most of these symptoms, too. — Envision this with me. You unlock your phone with a sigh as you pull up yet another dating app. You swipe through the profiles, rarely ever swiping right and matching with anyone. “Too douchey. Too self-centered. Not enough pictures of them without sunglasses. Too many shirtless pics. …