There Has to Be a Better Way to End Rape Culture: It Isn’t At All Like Stealing $5
Anna Hundert

Thank you so much for this. My sons have been enthusiastically repeating these analogies to me, and while they come from a good, supportive place, I found myself uneasy with them. I appreciate your articulating, in a tentative and open way, some of the things that have bothered me about this. While the short term effect may be more beneficial than harmful, I think over the long term reinforcing the idea of sex as any kind of monetary transaction (or goods and services) is deeply problematic. Consent is complicated. There are clear-cut cases and education, even the simplistic analogies, can be useful. I am inclined to say that if they prevent any rape or sexual assault or move the conversation a little bit, they are worth it, but I think if we use them, we have to use them with a full understanding of the complexity involved and that complexity has to be present when we use them. We need to use them with certain audiences, perhaps, but always with the caveat that they misrepresent sex. As you can tell, I am also struggling with this. Thank you for your post.

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