Sebastian LavenderinFemsplainMy Existential Crisis as a Femme-Presenting Trans ManSince the day I came out as a trans man, people have assumed that I would drop my femininity like a bad habit.May 27, 20178May 27, 20178
Sebastian LavenderinFemsplainHow To Achieve No Contact With A Toxic Or Abusive PersonWe all have people in our lives that we would rather not deal with. Maybe you have a “friend” who brings negative energy into your life and…May 9, 20175May 9, 20175
Sebastian LavenderinFemsplainLeaving My Family and Inheriting My Dead Grandmother’s DogRecently, my maternal grandmother passed away, a woman I never really got to know due to her agoraphobia and a plethora of other…Apr 10, 20172Apr 10, 20172
Sebastian LavenderI Found Hope For The Future in An UberYesterday, I had a panic attack on the Q Train. I, like everyone else around me, was trying not to think about the Inauguration. That just…Jan 21, 2017Jan 21, 2017
Sebastian LavenderinFemsplainIn 2016, I Accepted That I’m a ManDespite the fact that 2016 was terrifying and disappointing in so many ways, I will forever remember it as the year I was most honest with…Jan 20, 20179Jan 20, 20179
Sebastian LavenderLosing Great Aunt Florrie and Our HumanityI found out Trump won the presidential election the same day I found out my great Aunt Florrie was dying. While I was in Westchester with…Nov 11, 2016Nov 11, 2016
Sebastian LavenderinFemsplainOn Humanity and Voter IntimidationThe other day, I was happily browsing through my local pet store with my mom. I doted over the bouncy chinchillas with unrelenting…Nov 1, 201612Nov 1, 201612
Sebastian LavenderinFemsplainI Was Trolled IRL By My FriendsBeing a writer and a queer feminine person on the Internet, I’m certainly no stranger to the world of trolls. Every week, the same…Oct 13, 2016Oct 13, 2016
Sebastian LavenderGrappling With The Ghost Of Girlfriends Past and Feeling UndeservingI’ve gone through much of my life with this deep, instinctual sense that I am as undeserving as they come. It’s something that I don’t…Jul 22, 2016Jul 22, 2016
Sebastian LavenderinFemsplainI have Vaginismus, but I’m not a “Virgin”One night my friends and I were chatting in our hotel in India over weed and the piles of cookies we hoarded from the convenience store…Jul 6, 20161Jul 6, 20161