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My Existential Crisis as a Femme-Presenting Trans Man

Since the day I came out as a trans man, people have assumed that I would drop my femininity like a bad habit.

May 27, 2017

My Existential Crisis as a Femme-Presenting Trans Man

May 27, 2017

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How To Achieve No Contact With A Toxic Or Abusive Person

We all have people in our lives that we would rather not deal with. Maybe you have a “friend” who brings negative energy into your life and…

May 9, 2017

How To Achieve No Contact With A Toxic Or Abusive Person

May 9, 2017

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Leaving My Family and Inheriting My Dead Grandmother’s Dog

Recently, my maternal grandmother passed away, a woman I never really got to know due to her agoraphobia and a plethora of other…

Apr 10, 2017

Leaving My Family and Inheriting My Dead Grandmother’s Dog

Apr 10, 2017

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I Found Hope For The Future in An Uber

Yesterday, I had a panic attack on the Q Train. I, like everyone else around me, was trying not to think about the Inauguration. That just…

Jan 21, 2017

I Found Hope For The Future in An Uber

Jan 21, 2017

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In 2016, I Accepted That I’m a Man

Despite the fact that 2016 was terrifying and disappointing in so many ways, I will forever remember it as the year I was most honest with…

Jan 20, 2017

In 2016, I Accepted That I’m a Man

Jan 20, 2017

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Losing Great Aunt Florrie and Our Humanity

I found out Trump won the presidential election the same day I found out my great Aunt Florrie was dying. While I was in Westchester with…

Nov 11, 2016

Losing Great Aunt Florrie and Our Humanity

Nov 11, 2016

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On Humanity and Voter Intimidation

The other day, I was happily browsing through my local pet store with my mom. I doted over the bouncy chinchillas with unrelenting…

Nov 1, 2016

On Humanity and Voter Intimidation

Nov 1, 2016

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I Was Trolled IRL By My Friends

Being a writer and a queer feminine person on the Internet, I’m certainly no stranger to the world of trolls. Every week, the same…

Oct 13, 2016

I Was Trolled IRL By My Friends

Oct 13, 2016

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Grappling With The Ghost Of Girlfriends Past and Feeling Undeserving

I’ve gone through much of my life with this deep, instinctual sense that I am as undeserving as they come. It’s something that I don’t…

Jul 22, 2016

Grappling With The Ghost Of Girlfriends Past and Feeling Undeserving

Jul 22, 2016

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I have Vaginismus, but I’m not a “Virgin”

One night my friends and I were chatting in our hotel in India over weed and the piles of cookies we hoarded from the convenience store…

Jul 6, 2016

I have Vaginismus, but I’m not a “Virgin”

Jul 6, 2016

Sebastian Lavender

Sebastian Lavender

Professional Dog Trainer, Freelance Writer, Pitbull Advocate, Survivor, Parent of Two Amazing Pups, and Queer AF.

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