How to Win Friends and Influence People
In the book “How to win friends and influence people” Dale Carnegie is telling us about the importance of showing love and care to the people because the easiest way to get in good relation with the people is to be genuinely interested in them. It is in human nature that feeling of being loved is more attractive for the people than being loving someone. By showing more interest in people, you can make more friends and increase your communication skills. Your animated and enthusiastic behavior with people is going to represent you as a more valuable person for others. Nobody wants to talk to a person who is always admiring himself. Showing interest in people does not only benefit others but it indirectly makes you an influential and a heart winning person for the people around you.
Dale Carnegie has illustrated his concept by giving an example of Thurston, a very famous magician, who considered his audience the cause of his success and a good earning. He wanted to give his best because people love him and he has not taken their love for granted. He is different from other magicians, who wanted to take the applause of people just to get their benefits by considering their audience as big fools. This example of Dale shows that our interest in people should be real and right from the heart because the words and the actions that arise directly from the heart always put an influence on the person in front of you.
This same rule also applies in the case of companies and organization out there where you are going to apply. The people who are going to hire you would love to hear that how much interested you are in their company. Your extra ordinary interest in that company will make you different from the other participants. If you want to get your desired job, you have to show your genuine love and interest in that company.
Twenty Four Hour challenge
For practicing Dale’s theory of showing genuine interest in people, I took the Twenty Four Hour challenge and it was an amazing experience. I especially call those old friends from my college and school life, whom I was not able to talk for a long time. Their reaction was very exciting. I showed a genuine interest in them by asking the question about their present life and what were they doing in the past, when we were not together. They were very happy that how much I am taking interest in their lives although it was a long time when I talked to them before. I felt a deeper connection with my friends and the whole college and school life was passing in front of in the form of many happy and sad memories that we shared together. I’ll keep on performing this healthy exercise in my daily routine life.