What No One Tells You When You Break Up With Someone
They don’t tell you how much it’ll hurt. Even though it’s your decision, it will still break your heart. And it will break your heart further knowing that you have caused pain to the person you love most. And you will feel guilty for both of these things. Even though you don’t have to.
They don’t tell you that you will still love them. That doesn’t go away overnight. You will love them and you will miss them and you will wish they were still yours. You will still think of them constantly and want to share stories and jokes with them, but you will be forced to keep it inside because they told you that once you break up with someone, you should stop talking to them completely.
You will feel confused. Because you won’t understand how this could this be the right decision if it hurts so badly. But you will remind yourself that you will be better off in the long run because of it. So you will push through the pain.
They don’t tell you that you will still care about them. Deeply. And you will worry about how they are feeling but you won’t be allowed to ask them. And they don’t tell you how hard that is either.
They don’t tell you that you will see reminders of them everywhere. From brushing your teeth in the morning to feeling the absence of a “good night” before you go to bed, every little thing will remind you of them. Your brain has been used to thinking of them often, and they will pop into your head constantly without any warning or reason. And you will have to learn how to force yourself to think about something else to get through it.
They don’t tell you how tempting it will be to cave. To change your mind, to reach out to them, to take them back — even though you know that breaking up was the right decision.
They don’t tell you any of these things, but it probably wouldn’t make it any easier anyway.