I am always amazed at how differently men and women are wired. Whilst I adore men and am very much attracted to them, sometimes I just want to sit them down, make them a cup of tea and educate them on how to impress a woman.
I recently reconnected with someone from my past and apart from the odd phone call, most of our correspondence was done online. We corresponded for several months, for hours at a time and if I am going to be honest, I really enjoyed the banter. Being a writer I love expressing myself through the written word and of a night when my children were asleep, it suited me.
We talked about everything and nothing. As time went on I started to let down my guard and open up to him about things that were personal to me and began to feel a connection. Eventually the banter turned to flirtation and then an open declaration that we were attracted to each other. And then, things changed.
What the hell is going on with men today that they feel it totally appropriate to send a photo of their penis…unsolicited?
Now I like to consider myself as a pretty cool, new age woman, but I was left wondering how this had transpired and how on earth would I respond. What should I say? “Thank you”? Or, “what a lovely penis you have”? I liked this person and apart from this one glitch, I thought things were going along well.
So I reasoned with myself that he was no doubt drunk when he sent it, I mean who hasn’t done random, stupid things when they were drunk? He would wake in the morning, be mortified and I would never mention it again…but things didn’t play out that way.
The “dick pics” escalated into videos and then there were requests, (that eventually became demands) that I reciprocate. That’s when I knew that we were indeed on different planets and I thanked God that there were no IPhones around when I was in my 20’s.
What was it exactly that he thought my reaction would be? Surely he didn’t think that I would take one look at his member and start to heat up? News flash…I’ve yet to see one that takes my breath away.
What so many men don’t realize is that the process of seduction starts before they even know it. I have a friend who is a single Dad and I just swoon any time he mentions baking a cake with his kids or styling his daughters hair for a party. Sex, whilst fun, is such a minor part of what a woman wants. Women want the feeling, the buzzing energy that stays with us all day where we cannot wipe the smile off our face. Knowing that there is someone in the world that chooses us over any one else creates an unparalleled euphoria helping to validate our very existence as a woman.
Needless to say that my short lived online romance dried up and I just pray to God that I never bump into him in the street, (although I’m pretty sure I would recognize his penis before his face). It ended with him telling me that I was “schizophrenic,” he couldn’t understand why I was so hot and cold. Maybe if he kept some of that blood in his head he may have been able to work that out.